To See Him Face to Face

 

 

“The self resides in the face.” – Psychological Theorist, Sylvan Tompkins

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There is a thread running throughout the Scriptures that can be described as a “theology of the face.” In the Old Testament we hear a frequent refrain of “before Thy face,” and similar expressions. There are prayers beseeching God not to “hide His face.” Very clearly in Exodus, God tells Moses that “no one may see my face and live.” In the New Testament, there is a clear shift. The accounts of Christ’s transfiguration describe His face as shining. St. Paul speaks of seeing God “in the face of Jesus Christ.” He also speaks of us gazing steadily on Christ “with unveiled faces.” Orthodox Christianity has a very particular understanding of the face, modeled in the holy icons. It is worth some thought and reflection.

In both Latin and Greek, the word translated as “person,” actually refers to the face, or a mask (as a depiction of the face). The face is not only our primary presentation to the world, and our primary means of relationship, it is also, somehow, that which is most definitively identified with our existence as persons. Developmental psychologists say that the face-to-face gazing of mother and child in the act of nursing is an essential building block in the development of personality and the ability to relate to others.

It should be of note that the Holy Icons are always depicted facing us, with some few, turned ever so slightly. Those “turned” faces are found on icons whose placement would have originally been on an iconostasis and are slightly turned so as to be acknowledging the Christ icon. The only figures portrayed in profile are Judas Iscariot and the demons (or those who are fulfilling those roles). In the art of the Renaissance, and subsequent, this treatment of the face disappears. The human figure is simply studied for itself, as art, the relational function of the icon having been forgotten.

The Orthodox understanding of salvation is reflected in its treatment of icons. St. Paul’s description of being transformed as we behold the face of Christ is an expression of true personhood. Our “face” becomes more properly what it should be as we behold the face of Christ. This “looking” is, to a degree, what we today would call a “relationship,” though, I think, it has more insight and import. “Relationship” has become a word that is almost completely vacuous, lacking in substance.

With the face, and its implications for personhood, much more can be said. I cannot see the face of another without looking at them. To see your face, I must reveal my face. That face-to-face encounter is pretty much the deepest and oldest experience we have as human beings (first experienced with our mother in nursing). For the whole of our lives, our faces are the primary points of experience and reaction. We cannot truly know the other without encountering them face-to-face.

It is probably significant that art turned away from the face and toward the figure. The language of salvation as “not going to hell” or “going to heaven,” is, strangely, impersonal. The same is true of justification and the like. It easily sounds like a medical procedure, a treatment of the body (or worse).

Similar to the face is the treatment of names. In Revelation, the image of salvation is the giving of a new name. In the Old Testament, this same thing happens to Abram (Abraham) and Jacob (Israel). In their cases, a new name signals a change in them and a change in their status before God. By the same token, it has always struck me as deeply personal and touching that Christ sometimes had nicknames for his disciples: “Peter” (“Rock”) and “Boanerges” for James and John (the “Sons of Thunder”). I suspect there were others. In the Orthodox tradition, a child is named on the eighth day after birth, or, if later, at Baptism. The giving of a name at Baptism is also a very ancient part of Baptism in the West.

In these things, we must understand that we are “known.” We are known uniquely and not by reputation or reference. We are not in a category, nor are we the “objects” of God’s love. That we are being changed by beholding the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ suggests that we have to look at him – directly. This is very much part of the meaning of true communion.

Psychologists describe the bonding between mother and child in nursing (and face-to-face) as communion:

Identification begins as a visual process, but quickly becomes an internal imagery process, encompassing visual, auditory, and kinesthetic scenes. It is that universal scene of communion between mother and infant, accomplished through facial gazing in the midst of holding and rocking during breast or bottle feedings, that creates the infant’s sense of oceanic oneness or union. (Psychology of Shame, Kaufman, pg 31)

I was somewhat staggered to find such a theologically compatible statement in a work of technical psychology. Sometimes scientific observation is simply spot-on.

As we grow older, we never again gaze into the eyes of a person as we once did with our mothers. Lovers are often drawn to the eyes of the beloved, and find a measure of communion, but wounds and injuries eventually interrupt the initial innocence of such eyes. The same is at least as true with regard to God.

Regarding the face of God, there is this very telling passage in Revelation:

 And the kings of the earth, the great men, the rich men, the commanders, the mighty men, every slave and every free man, hid themselves in the caves and in the rocks of the mountains, and said to the mountains and rocks, “Fall on us and hide us from the face of Him who sits on the throne and from the wrath of the Lamb! (Rev. 6:16)

It is of note that Revelation does not simply speak of the wrath of the Lamb, nor merely of His presence. It is specifically a fear of His face. Our experience of the face is an experience of nakedness and vulnerability. On the positive side, the result is identification, communion and oneness. On the negative side, it is the pain of shame and the felt need to hide. I can think of nothing else in nature that so closely parallels and reveals the fundamental character of our relationship with God. Salvation is communion. Sin is an enduring shame.

It is into this existential/ontological reality of sin/shame that Christ enters in His Incarnation, suffering and death. The depths of hell are everlasting shame and yet, He doesn’t hesitate to enter there in order to rescue us. Christ’s rescue of Adam and Eve in Hades are a final echo of the encounter in the Garden. They hid in shame, but He came looking for them. Then, He covered them with the skins of animals, but now He covers them in the righteousness of the Lamb who was slain. Then they were expelled from Paradise; now they are restored. Then, they fled from before His face; now they behold Him face to face – and rejoice.

When I pray before the icon of Christ, I notice that His gaze never changes. He does not hide Himself from my shame – but He bids me return my gaze to His. Unashamed, painless. You can find paradise in those eyes!

 

About Fr. Stephen Freeman

Fr. Stephen is a retired Archpriest of the Orthodox Church in America, Pastor Emeritus of St. Anne Orthodox Church in Oak Ridge, Tennessee. He is also author of Everywhere Present: Christianity in a One-Storey Universe, and Face to Face: Knowing God Beyond Our Shame, as well as the Glory to God podcast series on Ancient Faith Radio.



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36 responses to “To See Him Face to Face”

  1. anna sen Avatar
    anna sen

    Amen Father !
    Your words bring tears to my eyes .
    Am just shedding my shame …. feeling vulnerable and exposed …… but looking forward to standing talk in my unworthiness …… shameless before Christ !
    Thank be to Him !!!
    🙏♥️

  2. Alexandra Avatar
    Alexandra

    My baby likes to hold my nose while she nurses. She smiles and giggles when I touch her nose back. Then, when she’s done, she wants her dad’s and brothers’ noses too! Oceanic union indeed.
    I’ve thought about this sometimes with the Theotokos. Yes, God is the Author of all. And/but it also feels like the Theotokos is the ground of my being in a way…She is the road I can take to God, like my baby takes that face to face with me connection as a way to her brothers.
    Another note on noses. My sister-in-law has a bunch of foster kids. People have till they’re two to make one decent attachment to another human. After that, there’s no way back…the brain loses the ability to create connections with other humans entirely. No connection had happened for one of hers, and they got him when he was 22 months. He only knew how to scream, bite, punch, and pound is head against the floor. He could not make eye contact. SIL did everything. She wore him, she fed him. She put her finger on her nose and then on his, day after day. On day, when she was puzting around the kitchen, she noticed he was tracking her movement. He made eye contact, touched his nose, and pointed at hers. Just like that, he was saved.

  3. Paul Hughes Avatar

    I look at Him, and He looks at me.

  4. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    Alexandra,
    Such sweet stories – and the poignancy of your sister-in-law’s persistence! Thank you!

  5. Carolyn Avatar
    Carolyn

    My daughter has a friend that is going to an orthodox church, and is taking classes to become a member. My daughter and her friend are both in their early 20’s. Recently both my girls visited the orthodox church with her friend. It was their first exposure to “another culture” as my oldest girl put it. On and off we talk about topics related to orthodoxy,( her friend lent her a couple books.) One of those topics we both look at, still through this lense of western Christianity, is icons. Yesterday we both agreed that we just don’t quite “get it”, it’s there but we haven’t quite grasped the understanding of it. I suggested that perhaps our road block might be because we are looking at things from still this idea that knowledge is something studied and learned, the calvinist (bless their hearts) sort of cramed theology into us academically. Knowing God as an academic pursuit. It’s a very dry and stale church atmosphere. Perhaps, I suggested that understanding this concept of icons is like learning to read, (homeschool mom here) we spent years learning letters, then the sounds. Eventually that moment comes when it clicks “mom look I can read”, or “look I’m riding my bike”. I’m encouraging her (and myself) to keep looking at this idea of icons…it sounds beautiful when you write about it. I think one day one of us will understand the orthodox perspective on it.. to see it through this lense. I think it is both a knowledge of understanding, but like riding a bike, it’s an experience of understanding, that isn’t easily explained.

    Hopefully that ramble isn’t offensive. Since her friend turned to orthodoxy we have both really had some good talks and reading interesting book (I just got your book in the mail so I’m diving into that).

    Pray for my girl she’s 23 heading off to finish her degree at Berea College (her first time attending there). She’s hoping to find a solid church there, pray she does.

  6. Drewster2000 Avatar
    Drewster2000

    Fr. Stephen,

    “As we grow older, we never again gaze into the eyes of a person as we once did with our mothers. Lovers are often drawn to the eyes of the beloved, and find a measure of communion, but wounds and injuries eventually interrupt the initial innocence of such eyes.”

    It’s too painful. Yes, there is the shame you speak o, but there’s something else too. God and I have this EXTREMELY intimate moment —- and then I immediately “return” to this cold, violent world where this seems totally inappropriate and foolish.

    So not only is it an incredibly jarring experience, but then it reminds me of just how close we are meant to be to each other – but never will be in this lifetime. Very heartbreaking. I know heartbreaking is part of the process but this knowledge does nothing to soften the pain.

    I suspect any true progress in the Christian journey can be measured by just how deeply we can look into His eyes for how long. I believe this practice is the path, but I also believe the level of goodness is matched by the level of pain it takes to sit there and gaze into each other’s heart. Hard but good – but also piercing. Lord have mercy as we learn not to be afraid of such pain.

  7. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    Carolyn,
    I think you are spot on in how you’re approaching icons – asking the right questions – being patient. I’m excited to hear about your daughter going to Berea. My dear friend, Fr. Justin Patterson, is the Pastor of St. Athanasius Orthodox Church in Nicholasville, KY. His parish has been in the process of starting a mission in the Berea area. I always have a great time when I visit his wonderful Church!

  8. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    Drewster,
    As I’m retired, and my adult children have long since moved away, the “nest” is not empty, but filled with the presence of my wife (and myself). We spend lots of uninterrupted time together. We’ve found of late, opportunities to talk about things that we’ve never explored with each other. I’m coming to know her at levels I wish I’d known long before. We do not stare into each other’s eyes – but we do look more deeply into each other’s souls. And that is profound as well. I am blessed in that she is such a truly good soul – full of kindness and compassion. God give us all grace!

  9. Byron Avatar
    Byron

    Alexandra, thank you for that story. It is breathtaking!

  10. Byron Avatar
    Byron

    Then, He covered them with the skins of animals, but now He covers them in the righteousness of the Lamb who was slain.

    Father, when I read this I immediately thought, “He’s a closet Calvinist!”. LoL! Ah…old perspectives die hard…. Forgive me.

  11. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    Byron,
    I love the imagery of being clothed – I’ve got a chapter on the topic in my book on shame. But, I did wonder why the closet was getting so crowded!

  12. Owen Kelly Avatar
    Owen Kelly

    St Paul’s statement, “with unveiled faces, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord” is amazing to me. I have wondered about this, where does the Apostle want us to look to see this glory? Where is this mirror? In this same passage, he says, “the Lord is the Spirit.” Where is the Lord who is the Spirit that we may gaze upon Him and be transfigured?

    Please forgive a long quotation, but St Gregory of Nyssa answers these questions so well for me. The quote is from his Homilies on the Beatitudes. I ran across this passage in Olivier Clement’s book, The Roots of Christian Mysticism, p. 237. Gregory writes,

    “The kingdom of God is within you” (Luke 17:21). From this we learn that by a heart made pure…we see in our own beauty the image of the godhead…. You have in you the ability to see God. He who formed you put in your being an immense power. When God created you he enclosed in you the image of his perfection, as the mark of a seal is impressed on wax. But your straying has obscured God’s image…. You are like a metal coin: on the whetstone the rust disappears. The coin was dirty, but now it reflects the brightness of the sun and shines in its turn. Like the coin, the inward part of the personality, called the heart by our Master, once rid of the rust that hid its beauty, will rediscover the first likeness and be real…. So when people look at themselves they will see in themselves the One they are seeking. And this is the joy that will fill their purified hearts. They are looking at their own translucency and finding the model in the image. When the sun is looked at in a mirror, even without any raising of the eyes to heaven, the sun’s brightness is seen in the mirror exactly as if the sun’s disc itself were being looked at…. The divine image will shine brightly in us in Christ Jesus our Lord, to whom be glory throughout all ages.

    To me, this is a lovely explanation in Christian grammar of that ancient mystical motto, “Know thyself.”

  13. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    Owen,
    I like the passage in St. Gregory – and I made some use of that thought and imagery in my book on shame. (Face to Face) Of course, I don’t think it’s as simple as the image being “in there” and all we have to do is look to see it. As St. Gregory notes, our “straying” has obscured the image. So, there are ways we go about “cleaning.” For one, there’s the image of Christ in the Gospels and in the services of the Church – it allows us to clean various mistaken or distorted versions of the image we might entertain. Another, is as we see Him in the lives of others. Christ points to the “least of these my brethren” in Matt. 25. There is, perhaps last of all, what we might encounter within ourselves, particularly as that is made clear through the sacrament of Confession and with a good Confessor, etc.

    Robert Jenson, the Lutheran theologian, once said, “The Father only knows Himself as He sees Himself in the Son.” I’ve thought about it lot over the years and think it’s an accurate statement. For us, we also have to say that we only know ourselves as we see ourselves in others – in relationships – and, of course, as we see ourselves in the Son.

    To know ourselves as we see ourselves in the Face of Jesus is to be plunged into the world of others – into the truly “personal” existence as revealed to us in the Godhead.

    I should add, in my experience, it is frequently painful. A bit like Eustace emerging from his Dragon suit…

  14. Owen Kelly Avatar
    Owen Kelly

    Father, could you shed light on how Gregory’s view relates to iconography?

  15. Owen Kelly Avatar
    Owen Kelly

    Ah, I posted that last comment a wee bit too late. 😊

  16. Owen Kelly Avatar
    Owen Kelly

    Those are extremely helpful comments. Thank you.

  17. Dee of St Herman Avatar
    Dee of St Herman

    Father,
    It seems to me that, as you indicate, quoting Christ’s words, “the least of these” are where we need to start looking for ourselves, if we want to see ourselves in the face of Jesus. I think we usually don’t want to do this in this culture, whether we are aware of it or not. It seems we want to see ourselves as superheroes, hence the pain (primarily of shame I suppose) when we glimpse our reality.

    Thank you for this article. The intimacy you describe as we look into an icon of Christ’s face is so true. Glory to God for His mercy.

  18. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    Owen,
    It’s worth thinking about the “commonality” found in icons of Christ. Obviously, very seldom are two “exactly” alike. And yet, it is clear that they are of the same Christ. I have a small (8×10) copy of a Rublev Savior – in our family icon corner. It simply pierces me to the core and takes me to a place of prayer. That’s very hard to describe. It’s like He presides over our prayers (and more).

    Certain icons are deeply important. A friend tells the story of speaking with a priest and expressing concern over a sort of “wrathful” set of thoughts when they considered God. The priest had a copy of the “Extreme Humility” icon on his desk, which he turned around so they could see it, and asked, “Who are we talking about?” My friend said it suddenly became clear that they had been thinking about God wrongly. Just that simple.

    Of course, it is also taught by the Fathers (St. Basil) that what is represented is made present in the icon. So, I accept that with my eyes, when I see an icon of Christ, there is a participation in Him, a communion of sorts.

    Fr. Pavel Florensky (martyred under Stalin) wrote that a true iconographer can only paint what he actually sees. That “heavenly vision” revealed within the iconographer is made manifest in the heart. Florensky said of Rublev’s Trinity that it was proof of the existence of God. He had to have seen God in order to paint it.

    That, of course, is quite rare in iconographers – which is why icons are often careful copies of those that have gone before. (It’s also why I have a Rublev copy in my home).

    Frequently, in a monastery, a monk (or nun) who is painting an icon will take it to their spiritual father (or a staretz should one be available) for them to judge it. What the elder is looking for is to “see” the heavenly prototype made present. Then they will bless it (or not) and the name is added to the icon. Practices with this vary.

    After a fashion, when each of us goes to confession, we are taking the image of Christ within us, as we see Him at present, and showing it to our confessor. The process is slow. Who of us could stand if we saw all of our distortions and sins in a single moment?

    There is a sort of “theology of the face” that runs throughout the Scriptures. It interests me a lot.

  19. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    Dee,
    I think that whenever I cannot “see Christ” in someone, then I am not truly seeing them. They may be in flat-out rebellion against Him, blaspheming, or living a life that is terrible, etc. But if I cannot see Christ within all of that, then I have not seen the person in front of me. Sometimes it’s very hard. Sometimes my own heart is so hard that it’s seemingly impossible. When Christ was to be born, there was already a conspiracy to kill Him…and still He came.

  20. Dee of St Herman Avatar
    Dee of St Herman

    Good words! Dear Father thank you for your response! Indeed it is true, sometimes I find it very difficult to see Christ in some querulous-cantankerous people. May Our Lord help!

  21. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    Dee,
    In my experience, when I can’t see Christ, it is often because much of my own darkness (anger, prejudice, mental noise, etc.) is being projected onto them. Only love sees anything. What love cannot see does not exist. Unpacking that requires a bit of ontology. 🙂

  22. Dee of St Herman Avatar
    Dee of St Herman

    “What love cannot see does not exist.” Father–I love it! Thanks! Those are good words to remember!

  23. Dee of St Herman Avatar
    Dee of St Herman

    Father, I hope it is ok to quote St John the Damascene. These words seem to follow what you’re saying about the icon of the Holy Trinity (emphasis below is mine, and these statements have been taken out of context of longer expositions):

    And God’s countenance is the demonstration and manifestation of Himself through His works, for our manifestation is through the countenance.

    He who longs alway after God, he seeth Him: for God is in all things. Existing things are dependent on that which is, and nothing can be unless it is in that which is. God then is mingled with everything, maintaining their nature: and in His holy flesh the God-Word is made one in subsistence and is mixed with our nature, yet without confusion.

    For the Son is in the Father and the Spirit: and the Spirit in the Father and the Son: and the Father in the Son and the Spirit, but there is no coalescence or commingling or confusion(8)· And there is one and the same motion: for there is one impulse and one motion of the three subsistences, which is not to be observed in any created nature.

    It gives also to all things being according to their several natures(1), and it is itself the being of existing things, the life of living things, the reason of rational beings, the thought of thinking beings. But it is itself above mind and reason and life and essence.

  24. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    Dee,
    Equisite!

  25. Owen Kelly Avatar
    Owen Kelly

    In a particularly selfish person, I think that sometimes it’s only a mother’s love that sees our Original Goodness, shining from a deep place where God only sees God. I was that person growing up! I’m grateful today for the Cross.

  26. Helen Avatar
    Helen

    I have a print of a charcoal sketch by an American artist. The sketch is titled Compassionate Love. It’s Christ’s face, but not the whole face and his eyes are closed and looking downward. It reminds me of the Orthodox Humility icon. This sketch draws me in, yet I have such a hard time looking at it. Your article Father helps me understand more. It is perhaps as it should be.

  27. Owen Kelly Avatar
    Owen Kelly

    The title of this post reminded me of an icon we have as well. It’s a close up of Mary pressing Christ to her cheek. The image epitomizes motherly affection for me. However, I don’t think I could separate my feelings about the icon and those I have for the mother of my own children. My wife is a tender caregiver; but if she wasn’t, I’m not sure I would/could have the same feelings about the Theotokos as written in the icon. Is this some of what it means to be “plunged into the “personal,” Father? You used this phrase above.

  28. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    Owen,
    Yes. I think so. Our culture thinks in highly individualistic terms – such that we often live unaware of the utter “debt” of our lives. We participate in our identity, in the “self” that we experience, but so much of it is also given to us by others around us, but experiences not of our own making, our inheritance, etc. That I think in English, for example, means that I have words and concepts that have been shaped by centuries of someone else’s experience – and that example could be multiplied again and again. Some of this is torturous – some of it is blessed. Beyond all of it, however, is a transforming giftedness that comes from being plunged into the person-to-person encounter with God. In that encounter, we are both purged, transformed, and blessed in the healing and gifting of the true self. This is a life-long thing – even beyond-this-life thing. Such that I only know myself – my true self – as I see myself in Christ (and the others that are seen in His gift to us).

  29. Owen Kelly Avatar
    Owen Kelly

    Father, your words here answer my question better than I asked it, and then some. Wow. Thank you. I will sit with this for quite a while.

  30. Michael Bauman Avatar
    Michael Bauman

    Father, my Dad believed and taught in his life and work that the health of each of us is intra-connected with the health of each person in the community. A rare and easily misunderstood position when he was working and has mostly disappeared since he retired in 1970.

    My mother was a dancer with the Martha Graham troop a 100 years ago. The dancers learn how to communicate with each other as they dance. Even when they dance is without music.

    Only a spiritual community made sense to me and my elder brother (an Orthodox priest).

    It took a long time but the Orthodox Church became the only answer.

    As I pray, I found I am more connected than I realized– coming to tears for other people’s sins and realizing my anger at some is due to my own sins rather than there’s

    I have trouble understanding your words to Owen in the light of my experience. What am I missing.

  31. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    Michael,
    I’m not clear what you’re having trouble with. That we are a highly individualistic culture? Your parents were unusual in what you describe – better for them!

  32. Michael Bauman Avatar
    Michael Bauman

    Father, the culture is highly individualistic, I just get the impression from your words that our encounter with Jesus is too.

    While it is deeply personal, in my experience, I become more connected to others as I go more deeply. Not because I try, the connections are just there–much as my Dad saw but more particular.

    Joy just comes with it as I allow the sense of connection to grow stronger but also sorrow for my sins that I share with others.

    Describing it is still a work in progress

  33. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    Michael,
    I must have worded that part poorly. To be truly a “person,” to have a “personal” existence, can never be individualistic. God reveals Himself as personal: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Each of those names is inherently non-individualistic. Father (Father of the Son) Son (Son of the Father) Holy Spirit (Breath of God). Etc.

  34. Michael Bauman Avatar
    Michael Bauman

    Indeed, and we are connected to each other and our Savior as we participate in and share the Sacraments from Holy Baptism to Holy Unction. Even in Confession I think.

  35. Michael Bauman Avatar
    Michael Bauman

    More Spacious Than the Heavens, the icon of Mary with Jesus on her lap blessing as she welcomes all with her arms wide open to worship her Son. Commune with her Son.

  36. juliania Avatar
    juliania

    “…Then, He covered them with the skins of animals, but now He covers them in the righteousness of the Lamb who was slain…”
    Wow.
    When I was a child, my uncle who raised sheep, took me by myself into the field and wordlessly demonstrated how a motherless lamb could be accepted by a sheep whose lamb had not survived birth. I held the orphan, and my uncle commanded his amazing dog to hold the sheep at bay (no easy task) whilst he proceeded to strip the dead lamb of its skin, carefully, so that it could be used as a garment for the motherless lamb with a ‘sleeve’ for each limb.
    It worked.

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