Love and Being

Perhaps the most intriguing statement in the New Testament is St. John’s simple, “God is love.” As mysterious and awesome as the revelation of the Divine Name (“I am that I am”) to Moses might be, St. John’s statement gives a content that echoes and infolds the death and resurrection of Christ itself. Indeed, any other statement about God runs the risk of obscuring this essential revelation. More than that, to say, “God is love,” reveals the full character of being and existence.

In our everyday thought and speech, we are accustomed to thinking about love as an action, a moral choice that describes how we treat others. We could say, “I am a human being who chooses to love.” In truth, it would be more accurate to say, “I am love who chooses to human-being.” Every thought and action in our lives that is contrary to love is a diminishment of our being. When Christ says to us, “I have come that they might have life, and that more abundantly,” we may understand Him to mean that He has come to make love possible and to nurture us in the fullness of love-as-being.

We are created with a drive towards true existence – we yearn for it. Frequently, we go no further with this drive than to tend to our bodies – to eat when we are hungry or to drink when we thirst. That same drive towards existence (on the bodily level) can become distorted through gluttony and such. By the same token, we are created to love. The primal bond between mother and child, is physical, emotional, and psychological. It eclipses these biological states, however, and becomes truly ontological.

The Virgin Mary, when presenting her Divine child in the Temple, is told by the Prophet Simeon, “this Child is destined for the fall and rising of many in Israel, and for a sign which will be spoken against (yes, a sword will pierce through your own soul also), that the thoughts of many hearts may be revealed.”” (Lk. 2:34-35) This describes something far beyond the bond of emotion between mother and child. The sword will pierce her soul. There is an ontological bond – such is the mystery of our true existence and its reality as love.

A difficulty with the world in its juridical imagination is that love is seen as but an emotion, sometimes an action – but not as the stuff of reality. We have everything backwards. It is Love (God) Who created all that is and sustains it. Communion with the true God is to live in Love. When we are told to “love your neighbor as yourself,” we too often hear little more than a commandment to be nice to those around us. St. Silouan heard it rightly and declared, “My brother is my life.”

St. Isaac of Syria wrote:

What compassionate kindness and abundant goodness belong to the Creator! With what purpose and with what love did he create this world and bring it into existence! What a mystery does the coming into being of the creation look towards! To what a state is our common nature invited! What love served to initiate the creation of the world! … In love did he bring the world into existence; in love is he going to bring it to that wondrous transformed state, and in love will the world be swallowed up in the great mystery of him who has performed all these things; in love will the whole course of the governance of creation be finally comprised.

Of course, the full nature of love is revealed in Christ’s voluntary self-offering on the Cross: “Greater love has no man than this, than to lay down his life for his friends.” (Jn. 15:13) The Cross is more than a saving event. It is an event that reveals.

Contemporary culture imagines human beings as individuals. As such, we seek to be self-contained, self-defining, and self-referential. It is ironic in the extreme that this patently untrue version of human existence is an invention of a culture rather than the product of an individual. It is a culture-wide delusion, sustained only through its unrelenting sales pitch telling us to “be all that you can be” (except that which you really are).

We are not the products of invention or genius, re-imagining or technology. We are birthed by love and bound by love and only fulfilled and realized through love. We are both lover and beloved, or else we are hastening towards non-existence.

Biology gives us a portion of our existence. It does not give us the fullness of our existence. Christ on the Cross, at the very edge of death, is, nevertheless showing the fullness of human existence. Creation itself (the darkened Sun, the earthquake) reveals His humanity as cosmic in its scope.

We are created in the image of God, not as thing, but as person. To be a person is far more than being a mere individual. It is an existence that embraces others as it constitutes itself in the free gift of love. The clinical observation of children in poorly-run orphanages in the former Soviet sphere documented classic examples of “failure to thrive.” Without love, without touch, without human-to-human communion, children withered away. Well-being, much less greatness of being, requires love.

Love is ontological, a matter of true being. Its absence in our lives, in whatever measure, diminishes our existence, our lives becoming thin and stretched. Bilbo Baggins, Tolkein’s hobbit character who carries the Ring of the Dark Lord for decades, describes himself in this classic manner: “I feel thin, sort of stretched, like butter scraped over too much bread.” In an age of information, we fail to see that we are wielding the ring of a dark lord, marveling at our power while we ourselves become less and less.

Many years ago, I became convinced that we become ever more like that which we love.

“…love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.” (1 John 4:7–8)

Bearing this in mind, the words of Isaiah seem less strange:

“Listen carefully to Me, and eat what is good, And let your soul delight itself in fatness.” (Isaiah 55:2)

Love is the very heart of our existence. It is the stuff of which our true life consists. Love God. Love your neighbor. Love even your enemy. Delight yourself in the fatness of being.

About Fr. Stephen Freeman

Fr. Stephen is a retired Archpriest of the Orthodox Church in America. He is also author of Everywhere Present: Christianity in a One-Storey Universe, and Face to Face: Knowing God Beyond Our Shame, as well as the Glory to God podcast series on Ancient Faith Radio.



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  1. Dan Avatar

    This harmonizes so deeply with what I feel God was speaking to me this very morning about where we place our attention and our hearts. To be so blessed with the grace of being a child of the kingdom is so rich with LOVE — I’m going to go back and read this several times. It’s the word my heart needs. Thank you for sharing your perspective, wisdom, and connecting with God’s LOVE.

  2. Matthew Avatar
    Matthew

    Is love not also manifested in the Resurrection? We seem to focus a lot on the cross in this space; the Crucified Christ is front and centre. Reminds me of my evangelical days …

  3. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    Matthew,
    The focus on the Crucified Christ is intentional on my part (following St. Paul). However, it differs sharply from your evangelical days. There the Cross focuses on “sin” – and the PSA. The content of the Cross is love – and, importantly, suffering love. The resurrection is the fulfillment and promise of love. Christ said, “For this cause I came into the world.” What you heard in your past tended to be a diminishment of the Cross, not its exaltation.

  4. Matthew Avatar
    Matthew

    Thanks Fr. Stephen. You wrote:

    “Christ on the Cross, at the very edge of death, is, nevertheless showing the fullness of human existence. Creation itself (the darkened Sun, the earthquake) reveals His humanity as cosmic in its scope.”

    Could you unpack this a little more? We have discussed this before, but I´m still struggling with understanding the cross and the resurrection and the relationship between them. As we talked about some time ago, the evangelicals tend to break apart all the aspects of Jesus´life (Incarnation, birth, life and ministry, etc.) and examine them individually. You seem to support looking at everything together in once full piece, but at the same time you seem to emphasize the cross over the other aspects.

  5. john brady Avatar
    john brady

    I love the St Isaac quote. Source? (I try to read the Ascetical Homilies regularly, but right now I’m not finding it right now.)

  6. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    John, Here is the citation:
    Isaac of Nineveh [Isaac the Syrian], ‘The Second Part’, Chapters IV-XLI, Sebastian Brock, trans. Corpus Scriptorum Christianorum Orientalium 555, Scriptores syri 225. Louvain 1995. II/38,1-2

    I was reading in Hilarion Alfeyev’s book, The Spiritual World Of Isaac The Syrian (Cistercian Studies Series Book 175) An excellent small treatise.

  7. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    Matthew,
    Originally, the Church’s feast of Pascha was a single feast that included both the Crucifixion and the Resurrection. It was, I am told, the influence of the Church in Jerusalem that gave rise to the whole, long celebration of Holy Week (which I truly love). But, in Orthodoxy, even on the night of Holy Thursday, during the service of Matins of Holy Friday, there are notes (and a slight shift in music) that signals the presence of the resurrection. That is part of the Orthodox consciousness of the Cross – the Cross (all of it) – is also Christ’s victory, His trampling down death by death. Even on Pascha itself, the great hymn repeated over and over, is “Christ is risen from the dead, trampling down death by death…” so that the Cross/the Tomb/the Descent into Hades/the Rising from the Dead are all celebrated as a single event – none of them without the others.

    But, I suspect that we would gladly separate the Resurrection out and leave the suffering behind. Forgive me, but it’s so American! Indeed, in much of Protestant theology and teaching, the Cross and the suffering is something that Jesus does – so that we don’t have to. And that is not the gospel. That’s anti-gospel. It’s a contradiction of Christ’s own teaching.

    So, if there’s an emphasis on the Cross in my writings (and there is), I pray that it’s an Orthodox emphasis. But, since we suffer in this life at present, it’s seems apropos to take us to that moment – and see what is going on.

    I hope that’s helpful.

  8. David E. Rockett Avatar

    Love this…thanks Father!

  9. Matthew Avatar
    Matthew

    Thanks so much Fr. Stephen.

  10. Byron Avatar
    Byron

    the Cross and the suffering is something that Jesus does – so that we don’t have to. And that is not the gospel.

    Recently, I came across a writing from a friend who has since passed. His therapist said exactly the same thing to him: “Jesus went to the cross so we don’t have to”. It struck me in the face now, where I’m sure it didn’t when I read it the first time.

  11. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    Byron,
    That’s very much part of the PSA teaching. But Christ is utterly clear that we must “take up our Cross and follow Him…” The only kind of Christian is a crucified Christian. Even babies are “baptized into His death.”

  12. Esmée Noelle Covey Avatar
    Esmée Noelle Covey

    “Contemporary culture imagines human beings as individuals. As such, we seek to be self-contained, self-defining, and self-referential. It is ironic in the extreme that this patently untrue version of human existence is an invention of a culture rather than the product of an individual.”

    This is a very interesting observation. But, it seems to have come about as a result of the development of the very introspective discipline of psychology, which was originally begun by just a few people, and then embraced and promoted by the larger culture, probably at the same time God was demoted and lost His central place in the lives of most modern people?

  13. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    Esmée,
    Already in the 17th-18th centuries, various philosophers were already very keen on human beings as pure individuals, while psychology doesn’t really get its start until the latter half of the 19th century. Individualism has been a hallmark of American culture since near its inception.

  14. Matthew Avatar
    Matthew

    Thank you Fr. Stephen and Byron.

    I am clearly not anymore a prosperity gospel Christian, but I am also not into self-flagellation. The Church talks a lot about suffering and it´s important place in the salvific lives of the faithful, but then the Church does massive amounts to alleviate suffering in the lives of all people.

    I pray for the suffering of others to be alleviated. I pray for healing. I know that I cannot altogether snuff out the flames of suffering, and suffering can be an excellent teacher when it does come, but I don´t think it is incorrect to believe that God also wants to heal us. Theosis is after all a process of healing the human soul … is it not?

    My wife is currently suffering from a very debilitating migraine. People are praying for her condition and situation. I don´t think they are praying that she suffer more in order that her union with God would be more complete. Should they?

  15. Matthew Avatar
    Matthew

    On a much happier note:

    I think many of you here will be pleased to know that my niece delivered a baby boy! His name is Theodoros and he will be raised Greek Orthodox. I so long to be at the baptism, but it may not be possible.

    Matthew

  16. Esmée Noelle Covey Avatar
    Esmée Noelle Covey

    Ah, thanks! This post is such a beautiful exposition of what “God is Love” means in the fullness of its unfolding in our lives.

  17. Dee of Sts Herman and Olga Avatar
    Dee of Sts Herman and Olga

    Matthew,
    It may seem odd to hear, but just before I was baptized in the Orthodox Church I got cold feet (not too different from someone who understands the seriousness of marriage just before the wedding). My priest suggested I had two choices to step up to the cross of Christ or step down from the cross. Framed in this way gave me the courage I needed to enter the waters of my baptism into the death and resurrection with Christ. The process of death involved was very real to me and I was very afraid of such fire but overcame this fear and hung on for the love of Christ.

  18. Matthew Avatar
    Matthew

    Thanks so much Dee. What fire were you afraid of?

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