Prayer to the Cross

Let God arise, and let His enemies be scattered; and let those who hate Him flee from His face. As smoke vanishes, let them vanish; and as wax melts from the presence of fire, so let the demons perish from the presence of those who love God and who sign themselves with the Sign of the Cross and say with gladness: Hail, most precious and life-giving Cross of the Lord, for Thou drivest away the demons by the power of our Lord Jesus Christ Who was crucified on thee, went down to hell and trampled on the power of the devil, and gave us thee, His honorable Cross, for driving away all enemies. O most precious and life-giving Cross of the Lord, help me with our holy Lady, the Virgin Theotokos, and with all the Saints throughout the ages. Amen.

Modern sensibilities (formed and shaped in a post-Reformation world) stagger when they hear classical Christianity offer prayers to the saints. Needless to say, an even greater affront occurs when an Orthodox Christian offers a prayer addressed to the Cross of Christ. “Only God can hear prayers! Only God can save us!”

The argument runs that saints can’t hear us because they’re dead (they’re not dead, they are with Christ). Also, that only God can answer prayers which is really just a confusion of language. The word “pray,” in modern usage, has a strictly religious meaning. However, the word means nothing more than to “ask.” In The Twelfth Night, Olivia says: “Stay. I prithee, tell me what thou think’st of me.” “Prithee” is a contraction of “pray thee.” We “pray” to one another all the time as we speak and ask.

But, speaking to an inanimate object would seem to raise the bar to yet another level of difficulty. Again, I go back to our language. Is the Cross “inanimate?” In a secularized understanding, only minds are “animate,” or perhaps things that can be described as “alive.” “Inanimate” means to have no spirit, no soul, no animus to use the Latin. And so we live in a “disenchanted” world, surrounded by soul-less stuff.

But here are the Orthodox speaking to the Cross.

Strangely, Christ spoke to the wind and the waves (inanimate bits of creation). And, we are told, “The wind and seas obeyed Him.” (Matt. 8:27) The language used says something about the wind and the sea even as it tells us something about Christ. Apparently, there is more to the “stuff” that surrounds us than the modern mind imagines.

Christian devotion to the Cross is quite primitive, with possible evidence of its devotional use even in the first century. It is so deeply embedded in the ancient Church that when the iconoclasts (8th century) demanded the removal of all icons from Churches, they made an exception for the Cross. Not until the 16th century would any Christian reject the image of the Cross.

It is, of course, important to note the very nature of the Cross when it is being invoked (whether by word, or symbol, or signing). The Cross is a symbol of shame, weakness, and defeat. Crucifixion was the common means of execution reserved for slaves (primarily). Its humiliation was so great that it was forbidden to be used against a citizen of Rome. Whenever we invoke the Cross, we are proclaiming that we have allied ourselves with the way of the Cross, and specifically with Jesus Christ, the God/Man, who demonstrated for all time that the Cross is the way of love and the fullness of the revelation of God. The resurrection of Christ vindicates the Cross and Christ’s self-emptying (Phil. 2:5-10).

The victory of Christ, of the Word-Made-Flesh, is also a victory for the groaning creation itself (Rom. 8:19-22). The Cross is not mere wood, a mute recipient of the writhing agony of God. The Church’s veneration of the Cross and its treatment in prayers and hymnody expand a very Bibilical model in which the “mountains and hills…break forth into singing, and all the trees of the field shall clap their hands….” (Is. 55:12).

The smallish arguments of the past few hundred years in which some modern sects wage war against iconography, relics, and the invocation of saints are ultimately an effort to further the drive towards secularization as well as an unrelenting effort to diminish the Church and the true vision of salvation as a cosmic event.

It is, ultimately, an argument that is not solved by competing syllogisms. Rather, as is true of the faith itself, it is settled when the Orthodox say, “Come and see!” The fullness of its life and practice is itself part of that abundance that Christ promised to us all.

The Hymn to the Cross

O Lord, save Your people,
and bless Your inheritance!
Grant victory to the Orthodox Christians
over their adversaries,
and by virtue of Your Cross,
preserve Your habitation. 

 

About Fr. Stephen Freeman

Fr. Stephen is a retired Archpriest of the Orthodox Church in America. He is also author of Everywhere Present: Christianity in a One-Storey Universe, and Face to Face: Knowing God Beyond Our Shame, as well as the Glory to God podcast series on Ancient Faith Radio.



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37 responses to “Prayer to the Cross”

  1. Ook Avatar
    Ook

    The usage of the word “pray” to mean “ask” remains in modern English. “And what, pray tell, do you mean by that?” was a common phrase used by an ex to challenge me.

  2. Margaret Avatar
    Margaret

    Thank you, Fr. Stephen.

  3. Charles Avatar
    Charles

    In the practice of law, a Complaint (used to begin a lawsuit) always ends with the “Prayer for Relief” where the Plaintiff must specifically set forth exactly what he wants from the Court.

  4. Gisele Avatar
    Gisele

    Thank you, Father Stephen! Your words “The victory of Christ, of the Word-Made-Flesh, is also a victory for the groaning creation itself (Rom. 8:19-22). The Cross is not mere wood, a mute recipient of the writhing agony of God. The Church’s veneration of the Cross and its treatment in prayers and hymnody expand a very Bibilical model in which the “mountains and hills…break forth into singing, and all the trees of the field shall clap their hands….” (Is. 55:12)” are mysterious and instructive – currently beyond my reach, and clearly to be sought after in understanding.

    I recently read a homily of the First Sunday of Lent 1961 by Monseigneur Jean de Saint-Denis (Eugraph Kovalevsky) in which he describes heresies as anything that seeks to limit one’s intelligence or heart. He writes “Do not mistake yourselves: where there is partiality, there is the devil. Where plenitude lives, even if it is at first difficult to accept, there is the Spirit. … The Church is there, and the Spirit is present in her so that you may receive just instruction, so that your intelligence may burst forth, and your heart expand …”

  5. Mallory Avatar
    Mallory

    Thank you, Fr. Stephen.

    Ook, my mother often used and still uses this tactic “What, pray tell, do you mean by that?”–it’s not my favorite phrase, sort of a set up.

    Father, I hope you can weigh in on a battle I am experiencing leaving the New Age behind. I’m struggling with now being hyper-aware and spooked by anything that I could be doing that might distance me from Christ. I recently finished the book You Are Mine by Sister Anastasia. It did not console me, it just freaked me out, and I feel now sort of adrift. For example, I have a great therapist who often recommends that I look into Byron Katie’s work. Previously, I wouldn’t have thought anything about it–it’s questioning thoughts, essentially, and she is supposedly enlightened and believes suffering is of the mind/derives from our thoughts about the world, and is never outside of us. Are you or anyone in the community familiar with her? In any case, I normally listen to my therapist but after reading Sister Anastasia’s book, I’m concerned I keep mixing Christ with other things. I recently abandoned yoga and meditation, which was a daily practice, and I basically feel horrible and lost. I read the Bible in the morning, pray, but I feel terrible, like I’m not in my body anymore. I miss my practices terribly and I haven’t found a replacement that gives me the patience and lightness to face the day that these supposedly demonic practices do (according to the book, and many other Orthodox opinions, including people in my church). I also feel frustrated that I keep being told in this faith “don’t do this, don’t do that” but there’s not a replacement suggested. Perhaps I am weak, but I can’t survive on prayer alone, I am in a physical body and have lots to do in the day with a 3 year old child constantly needing my attention. Please advise!

  6. Dee of St Herman Avatar
    Dee of St Herman

    Mallory,
    It sounds like to me that you’re being burdened with changes (‘don’t do this or that’) that are feeling like impositions. I’m worried that you might be rushed along. Each person truly enters the faith through wholeness of their whole being, which very much means the body unseparated from the soul, heart and mind. This life is not supposed to be just some mental abstraction that might be misrepresented as “prayer”. This may sound odd to hear, but it has been my experience that many converts to Orthodoxy, especially from Protestant backgrounds, have a way of moralizing (the “don’t do that” stuff) the ethos of the Orthodox Church. Please go slowly. Take your time. Our Lord says the “burden” of His yoke is light.

    Sometimes I just “sit” with the Lord. I sit without saying anything at all, holding my prayer rope looking at a candle flame, sometimes closing my eyes, and in such moments will say the Jesus prayer or just the Lord’s name. Lord Jesus Christ.

    There are other Orthodox books I might recommend, but perhaps Father Stephen might recommend some that would be more helpful than to make you feel that you’re not doing ‘enough’. The world is truly not ‘secular’. The grace of God can be seen with our eyes and felt in our bodies. However it is the ethos of this Western civilization, to make a division between heart and mind, body and soul. Such divisions are not real.

  7. Dee of St Herman Avatar
    Dee of St Herman

    Mallory,
    Do you have a patron saint?

  8. Dee of St Herman Avatar
    Dee of St Herman

    Please forgive me for one more thought, Mallory. Prayer in the Orthodox Church is (in my experience) very physical. In my prayer corner are the icons of Christ and the Theotokos. When I pray before them, I cross myself and prostrate or kneel—sometimes staying there in prostration or kneeling when my heart needs this. This physicality is in my daily morning prayer. At work it may be different. But I have closed the door to my office and have icons on my desk, before where I physically pray.’

    I’ll pray to my saint (Gobnait) and Saint Olga of Alaska to ask our Lord for your peace in heart, mind, and body, for your wholeness. If you have a patron saint, perhaps ask for their help, too.

  9. Michelle Avatar
    Michelle

    Mallory,

    This is my understanding. There are certain dogmas within the church, and there are many other traditions within the church. The tradition as a whole contains thousands of years of treasure, and thousands of years of some rich detritus which hasn’t yet transformed to fit our current generation. God is alive in us, and it’s okay that we are not the same people who lived before, being and acting exactly as they did.

    As far as other traditions go, for example, Hinduism — there is no religion as “Hinduism;” it’s a collection of stories and practices. Within this collection, there is the insight that the universe was made from the death of a man, Purusha. I personally believe that this is the insight of Christ’s death on the cross; that Christ’s reality was made known to those ancient people, who were freed from Hades with His decent to break the bonds of hell. Again, this is my personal belief, and many might strongly disagree.

    Then in Hinduism, you’ve got the the Mahabarata, which some anthropologists say is essentially the same story as the Iliad. In this story of the Bronze Age collapse, you’ve got these plasmoid demon creatures in the form of “gods” coming to earth from the heavens and destroying the people. So, some of the people worshipped these plasmoid demons in Greece and in India and all over the world, and as far as I know, they’re still here. A gorgon is a plasmoid that comes out of volcanoes, for instance. Scientists studying plasma physics have made great strides in this department in recent years — fertile stuff.

    So with yoga, if I’m sitting on my lawn with my legs crossed like a “yogi,” I might just be sitting. I might not be channeling plasmoid demons.

    And this might be controversial, but I attend a gym in town to go swimming sometimes, and it’s basically a medical facility. It’s mostly retired people there during the day, trying to stay healthy. There are two clean, empty rooms for people to lay on yoga mats like “logs” and practice their planks and squats. They don’t chant or listen to trance-inducing music, and I don’t think that anyone idolizes the yoga sessions with the intent of channeling some sort of energy. I think it’s basically older women in a safe space, sort of embodying the type of physical play that children naturally do.

    So that’s one form of yoga in America — this medical / gym type. But I do think there are demonic plasmoid creatures out in the ether, and thinking about them too much is probably a good way to draw them to you.

    Sending peaceful thoughts your way <3. I hope you find many ways to stay healthy and play!!

    Michelle

  10. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    Mallory,
    If possible, try not to think too much. It’s easy to get an overload of advice that is just confusing. Say your prayers simply. Cross yourself. When new ideas or opinions come your way, simply say, “Hmm. I’ll ask my priest…” and let it go.

    Also, ask your Guardian Angel to help you. You’ll be fine.

  11. Margaret Avatar
    Margaret

    I am in the process of reading You Are Mine by Sister Anastasia and I’m reading it because she describes a world I know nothing about — sometimes called “New Age” — but I have friends and some acquaintances that practice Hindu and Buddhist ways of life. This book is a real eye opener for me.

    Mallory, please know that there is Nothing that you can do wrong to separate you from Our Lord Jesus Christ. He is the Lover of Mankind. It sounds like there is a LOT of change going on in your daily life. If you have other mothers of young children that you get together with, maybe they can help with daily routine ideas for you — replacing yoga or prayer that they have found calming and reassuring. You may need a new therapist, but maybe not. Fr. Joshua Makoul may be helpful with this decision. You can write to him. https://www.ancientfaith.com/podcasts/healingunresolved/

    I recommend praying the Akathist to the Mother of God Nurturer of Children and spread it out over a few days, not all at once. Also seek the Protection of Our Theotokos, go to her mentally and when you can stand or sit with her icon. She is our Champion Leader and She loves you! And sees your mothering days!

    There is a small book by Dee Pennock that begins at a very basic level: God’s Path To Sanity : Lessons From Ancient Holy Counselors On How To Have A Sound Mind. She starts with: The Soul You Have to Work With. You may find this helpful. Fr. Stephen is a blessing with his recommendations of Your Guardian Angel and you can talk to your angel just as you would your child and encourage your child to talk to their angel and all your family’s patrons. God bless your beautiful life! You really are doing so well, doing so very much and you will be blessed for drawing near to Our Lord and His Mother and His Church. You’re in my heart and my prayers.

  12. Esmée Noelle Covey Avatar
    Esmée Noelle Covey

    Dear Mallory,

    I came to Orthodoxy from an Eastern Religious and New Age background. Christ wasn’t even on my radar quite honestly. But He reached my heart through a book called The Mountain of Silence by Kyriacos Markides which was the exact bridge I needed to go from those many-faceted ideas to Christ.

    It has been 25 years since that happened, but it still stuns me today when I think about how Christ did this for me. The past two and half decades of my journey into Orthodoxy has not been a straight line. It has been a path of continual revelations and deepening of my faith and understanding.

    Saint Sophrony of Essex has said that it takes about 20 years for a convert to become truly Orthodox, and I can strongly affirm that this aligns with my own experience. A turning point came for me about ten years ago when I consciously decided that I didn’t need to understand or believe everything that that Church teaches in order to have faith in Christ and His Church.

    At that point, I let go of my rational, analytical mind and simply embraced the practices that have created so many saints within the Church. Reading the Lives of the Saints, both ancient and modern, on a regular basis has been instrumental in helping me to do this because these individuals are the good fruits and proof of the what the Church teaches. And they are what I want to be.

    Above all, I think we must be patient with ourselves, as Christ has been extremely patient with us.

    With Love in Christ,
    Esmée (Elisabeta in Baptism)

  13. hélène d. Avatar
    hélène d.

    Thank you, Father Stephen, for this timely post !
    Can we say that it is not the cross itself that saves, but the Crucified Lord who saves. But it is full of the Savior’s saving power, as seen in the lives of great saints who performed miracles through the sign of the Cross. And we ourselves carry this sign within us, which we often perform in our ecclesial life and in our personal prayers, even invisibly in certain circumstances… Through the Cross, we have the Lord with us…
    There is an entire Akathist hymn addressed to the holy and life-giving Cross !

  14. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    Hélène,
    Yes, we can. It is the power of Christ’s sacrifice that abides in the Cross (and the sign of the Cross). It is the nature of how God has created things that participation is real, true, and effective. I’ve often thought that the old vampire movies managed to at least get that part right!

  15. Matthew Avatar
    Matthew

    Fr. Stephen wrote:

    “Crucifixion was the common means of execution reserved for slaves (primarily). Its humiliation was so great that it was forbidden to be used against a citizen of Rome.”

    It is amazing (to me) that such an instrument of humiliation and torture was transformed into an instrument of divine love. What can this say to us? What can this teach us?

  16. Janine Avatar
    Janine

    Matthew, forgive me, but you’re getting closer to Orthodoxy here — where God is found in the paradoxes!

  17. Bonnie Ivey Avatar
    Bonnie Ivey

    Mallory,
    It is possible to combine stretching, breathing, and relaxation while listening to instrumental music, or music that features a passage from scripture. For example, John Michael Talbot has produced both instrumental and vocal albums. For an example, youtube has videos such as “The Magnificat”.

    While painting a series of gospel illustrations, I had Talbot’s music playing, which helped with concentration. When the finished artworks were displayed, his instrumental music was played in the background as people walked through the gallery. Instead of the usual chatter of art viewers, there was a hush.

    Perhaps others can suggest similar music for you. Also, in his book His Life is Mine, St. Sophrony teaches on use of the breath in praying in The Jesus Prayer.

    Bonnie

  18. Janine Avatar
    Janine

    Dear Mallory, I’ll try to just put a footnote on what others have said.

    The Jesus Prayer is a wonderful, ancient meditation practice. You can also recite it when you are doing anything else (including stretches and exercises). I’m with Fr. Stephen, don’t think too much. Guardian Angel will be working too as he said!

    I have found in my own life that Christ /Holy Spirit will bring to me things I need to change. I don’t have to intellectually think these things up or go through a checklist. Besides, I’m not the judge, He is. So just keep praying centered in the heart. Sometimes it’s things WAY out of our own boxes that need to go first, and there’s just one Source that knows that, not us.

    Don’t know if this will help, but in Orthodoxy I’ve heard it taught that morbid guilt is just the flipside of self-centered behavior. It’s not going to make us holy to rake ourselves over the coals. Maybe take a walk if you enjoy it, and find the beauty that speaks the Creator’s name to us, some sunshine on your shoulders if you live in a place where you can enjoy. The kind of gratitude for those simple joyful things — whatever they are — is what I’ve read Father Stephen preach on these pages. That can be a lifesaving practice. Sometimes we might thank the Lord for the difficult tests we have to figure out too, because we grow thereby. Wishing you peace and joy…

  19. Janine Avatar
    Janine

    Dee, Markides was a great great help for me too! And he really opens up the Jesus Prayer practice.

    Just going to throw this out there: a really beloved Greek Orthodox priest used to say, “We have tools, not rules.” Good thing to remember. God is love!

  20. Janette Adelle Reget Avatar
    Janette Adelle Reget

    I always wondered why different traditions and practices should bother other people. How is it hurting you?

  21. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    Janette,
    I can’t tell to whom you’re posing the question. Do I seem bothered?

  22. AR Avatar
    AR

    Father, I was really struck by your statement about the Cross not being rejected until the 16th century. I’m not Orthodox (at least not yet), so I’m used to not thinking about the Cross itself very much, but thinking about it now, it seems insane to me that anyone who loved Christ would reject the image of His Cross. It feels like rejecting Christ himself. Who is Christ without the Cross? And then, who are WE without the Cross?

    PS I wonder if Janette might be referring to people who might be against iconography/venerating the Cross and such.

  23. Kenneth Avatar
    Kenneth

    AR,

    Yes, I also was struck by that statement about the Cross being rejected in the 16th century, and I had to look up that bit of history. Indeed, Calvinists rejected not only icons but also the Cross and removed it from their churches. English Puritans also destroyed crosses in churches during the English Civil War in the 17th century. Astounding.

  24. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    Kenneth, AR,
    My reading of 16th and 17th century historical material points to a deep, intense streak of anti-Roman Catholicism in many (most) parts of the Reformation. It’s a complex topic – sort of like trying to figure out what happened in a marital divorce, only involving some millions of people. But that intense emotion fed a number of the most extreme reactions within Protestant thought. Iconoclasm was one of those strains. A number of the major groups (Anglicans, Lutherans) managed to avoid extreme iconoclasm, the Calvinists, not so much.

    We are the children of a divorce – sometimes battered and bruised. History is quite messy. Even if we are able to analyze and critique, we do well to remember that we live in a world that was not entirely of our own making. May God give grace to His children – all of us – and preserve us by His grace.

  25. hélène d. Avatar
    hélène d.

    Regarding the Cross, among all human beings, I think of the Mother of God, who experienced many difficult moments in her life. For example, when, as a child, the Lord Jesus Christ was sought out by Herod to be put to death, and how many times she endured reproaches and blasphemies against her Son, especially in the last days, when he was condemned and denied by the entire nation, when they crucified him, and the abandonment of almost everyone…. She stood with St. John, the beloved disciple, both standing beneath the Cross. She had her heart pierced several times…
    Can we say that the suffering of the Mother of God is a “voluntary suffering,” her cross as a participation in the divinizing suffering of the Lord, a suffering quite different from any human suffering experienced up to that point? It does not have its starting point in a personal initiative, but rather a response, an obedience, and even a consent to the Passion of Her Son? In a text from the Desert Fathers, an elder recounts that one day, while sitting near Abba Poemen, he saw him enter into ecstasy, and since he was very free with him, he then asked him: Where have you been ? Then, after a silence, he told him that his thoughts were where the Holy Mother of God stood, weeping, very close to the Cross of the Savior; and I, he said, would always like to weep like this…
    How I would love to discover, to know, even a single tear of the All-Holy One !
    Her love as a disposition to suffer and endure everything, as the nature of Christ’s suffering ?
    How much there would be to contemplate in this presence of the Holy Theotokos !

  26. Kennetb Avatar
    Kennetb

    Helene,

    Thank you for those amazing meditations. I first came to know the Theotokos from an icon of her at the foot of the Cross, which I doubtless can meditate on for the rest of my life.

    By the way, I had attended the Akathist to the Holy Theotokos a number of times without understanding all the words. I was so moved recently when I realized we call her “Champion Leader”! How utterly appropriate, powerful, and beautiful.

  27. Janine Avatar
    Janine

    Dear Helene,
    Right now in my life there are three very devout and faithful families suffering with serious longterm disease of loved ones, together with extreme and lingsuffering effects and symptoms. It is just heartbreaking when it is longterm and to hopes raised and dashed repeatedly. One of these families has recently lost the loved one, two of the suffering are children/young adults. One of these has an extremely rare rare “new” cancer. It is excruciating on the families and the children.

    I cannot help but think that there are new kinds of martyrdom in which people are not persecuted in the same sense as the early Church, but nonetheless suffering becomes a test of faith day by day. So often I am seeing also a hope that prayer and faith will provide cures where medicine does not. I am a great believer in prayer and faith helping us to find the right path, to give us a good intuition, to find the right physician, even to heal or help heal. But our faith cannot depend on those outcomes. It just seems to be a sense in which Crucifixion and martyrdom also happens. Perhaps I need another perspective on this from Father or others, I would be welcoming to that.

  28. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    Hélène,
    Thank you for these thoughts. The Mother of God’s suffering is, indeed, voluntary. Her “be it unto me according to Your word,” at the annunciation is one yes, while her, “Do whatever He says,” at the Wedding in Cana is another. There is a quiet conversation taking place between Christ and His mother at that Wedding. “It is not my time,” is also the warning that “once we start, we cannot stop…” But she is ready to see it begin. She consents to God’s plan for our salvation.

    A sword pierced her soul many times – none more profoundly than at the Cross. That Christ spoke to her (and that it is recorded) from that painful place (“Woman, behold Your son”) is a recognition of her share in that moment.

  29. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    Janine,
    I agree with you. St Maximos the Confessor said that Christ suffers with us (in us) until the close of the age. We never suffer alone. But suffering is a difficult thing. He is not with us to make it a light thing – but to make it something that unites us to Him. It is a martyrdom (witness).

  30. hélène d. Avatar
    hélène d.

    Kenneth, yes, the Akathist to the Mother of God is so poetic and powerful that it would bring an entire army of sleepers back to their feet ! I have also been discovering this impulse towards Her for some time now, and I pray to Her to help me know Her more deeply…

  31. hélène d. Avatar
    hélène d.

    Janine, I’m quite lacking in examples of great suffering, and I wouldn’t have much to offer, but as Father Stephen so aptly puts it, “we never suffer alone ; Christ suffers with us, in us.” This truly requires faith and demanding, unwavering prayer to experience and maintain this reality within oneself… every day !
    This can also be the place for an increasingly profound encounter with the “glorious suffering” of the Mother of God. She carries within her a great power of intercession. I recently read that the suffering of the Mother of God comes from the knowledge she has of Whom she conceived and brought into the world. She endured the unbearable when she saw the Son Himself endure the unbearable. Of course, this was not the suffering of an ordinary mother… but through Her, through fervent prayers of intercession, one can be given the opportunity to receive Her protection, Her compassion, tender assistance… to “go through” difficult suffering with Her.

  32. Fr. Stephen Avatar

    Hélène,
    What we see in both Christ (in His humanity) and in the Mother of God (in her union with her Son), are, to the extent possible, also true of us. St. Paul says of himself, that he “rejoices in my sufferings for you, and in my flesh I am completing what is lacking in Christ’s afflictions for the sake of his body, that is, the church.” (Col. 1:24). This co-suffering has been manifested repeatedly in the lives of the saints. The whole of our life in Christ, of our salvation in Him and through Him, is worked out through our union (communion) with Him. It is a principle that runs throughout our Orthodox faith.

  33. hélène d. Avatar
    hélène d.

    Yes, thank you, Father Stephen, for these words that expand this reality towards ourselves ! It is so important… and this “co-suffering” does not crush, does not afflict unduly, it has another quality, because it carries within it an unthinkable force of life, which is difficult and even impossible to imagine for those who do not have faith. The examples of martyrs running towards the place of torture with the light of the Kingdom, Joy before them and already within them… We can say that it is a suffering that is not undergone, but voluntarily accepted, like that of the Lord and his holy Mother.
    What magnificent and saving perspectives are given to us to live also, in our own way, these divine and human realities ! There is much to meditate on, to contemplate…

  34. Mallory Avatar
    Mallory

    Father, not think too much? What an amazing idea! I’m of course kidding, and yes you’re right. And in my over-thinking, had completely forgotten to ask my Guardian Angel for help. I started this weekend thanks to everyone’s generous replies and I do feel lighter.

    I want to thank all of you who replied to my struggles! All the wisdom has been taken into my heart. I did yoga yesterday and used the Jesus Prayer during the longer stretches. I feel much better back to my practice–the facts can’t be argued that with yoga I am healthy and with a lot more energy than without, it is also what got me sober, which is no small thing considering I come from a long line of alcholics. I can’t be the only one who has noticed that since the pandemic, more and more people are sick and unwell and on countless medications or they are addicted.

    Dee, I do not have a patron saint. I often sit in silence by a candle, I suppose a lot of these labels (like “don’t meditate”) can make it confusing for people seeking Christ.

    Margaret, thank for your kindness, I bought the book you suggested and looked up the Akathist to the Mother of God Nurturer of Children. I do have a lot of change in my life right now, motherhood was not what I thought it would be and I have been in the fire, so to speak, for almost 4 years now. It is an unrelenting, daily challenge for me, with no break, and one that I feel I was unprepared for because of how motherhood is falsely portrayed, and, I have now discovered, many if not most mothers of young children suffer silently and with a lot of guilt.

    Thank you again to this generous community. Bless everyone!

  35. Janine Avatar
    Janine

    Mallory, regarding meditation, contemplative prayer is basically the “same thing” if we consider simply its structure. The difference depends upon the object of focus, attention, and intention — the object of our worship. Again, I suggest the possibility of substituting the Jesus Prayer or another prayer for the silence by the candle. This will help also to give you good and also helpful structure.

  36. Janine Avatar
    Janine

    Father, thank you so much for your responses to Helene and to myself. I can’t even say how many avenues of consideration they have opened up for me.

    I think in terms of modernity, which you often speak about, the things you teach in these responses have a lot to do with why our faith is so “counterintuitive” (if I can use that word) to a consumerist mindset of modern popular culture. If meeting suffering with faith adds to the Body of Christ, if we indeed are invited into this perfecting work of spiritual struggle, that turns the consumerist mindset on its head. It teaches us about the power of sacrifice and repentance in the sense of turning wounds into blessings. In terms of illness I have repeatedly encountered the idea that prayer and faith will give us the outcome we want, but how can one tell people this is not necessarily so? I have quoted from St. Paul, “My strength is made perfect in your weakness.” It is sad because it sets up the notion that one didn’t pray enough or have faith enough if the “right” outcome didn’t happen.

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    Esmée Noelle Covey

    Mallory – here is a link to an interesting article on The Milk-Giver icon written by a young mother in my own parish. For reference, Catie is the niece of Fr. Stephen’s Archbishop Alexander (Golitzin), and her father is a deacon at a local church, so she is very well-grounded in the Faith.

    https://open.substack.com/pub/aonestoreylife/p/family-feast-day

    She has a lot of other interesting articles on her substack. She, too, is in the process of trying to find her parenting sea legs, and she might be able to point you in the direction of other Christian mothers/writers who are struggling with motherhood as well.

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