St. Mary of Egypt and Moral Progress

st_mary_egypt_armThe suggestion has been made several times recently that my criticism of moral progress is not supported by the example of the saints. Surely, it is said, the transformations we read about in the lives of the saints are clear examples of moral progress. A noted such example, perhaps the greatest story of repentance and asceticism known in the Church, is that of St. Mary of Egypt. It is worth looking carefully at her life (for which we have a canonical narrative) and consider what it is, exactly, that we are seeing. She is, indeed, a proper example of the transformation of the Christian life – one that is extended to the entire Church on the 4th Sunday of Great Lent. But I will again suggest that moral progress is largely a modern notion (it is certainly rife with Modern assumptions), driven by modern psychological and therapeutic models. And although moral progress would seem to be a correct way (for some) to describe the Church’s theology of synergy (that we cooperate in our salvation), it is  in fact a distortion of that teaching and a distraction from the true transformation that is ours in Christ. St. Mary provides excellent material for all of this.

St. Mary’s story relates her sudden conversion from drunkard and harlot to desert dweller.

The first thing we notice in St. Mary’s repentance is its suddenness. She had “worked” her way from Alexandria to Jerusalem by “corrupting” young men among the pilgrimage group. Everything was like a lark to her, until she couldn’t enter the Church of the Resurrection in order to venerate the Holy Cross.

The holy day of the Exaltation of the Cross dawned while I was still flying about — hunting for youths. At daybreak I saw that everyone was hurrying to the church, so I ran with the rest. When the hour for the holy elevation approached, I was trying to make my way in with the crowd which was struggling to get through the church doors. I ad at last squeezed through with great difficulty almost to the entrance of the temple, from which the lifegiving Tree of the Cross was being shown to the people. But when I trod on the doorstep which everyone passed, I was stopped by some force which prevented by entering. Meanwhile I was brushed aside by the crowd and found myself standing alone in the porch. Thinking that this had happened because of my woman’s weakness, I again began to work my way into the crowd, trying to elbow myself forward. But in vain I struggled. Again my feet trod on the doorstep over which others were entering the church without encountering any obstacle. I alone seemed to remain unaccepted by the church. It was as if there was a detachment of soldiers standing there to oppose my entrance. Once again I was excluded by the same mighty force and again I stood in the porch.

Having repeated my attempt three or four times, at last I felt exhausted and had no more strength to push and to be pushed, so I went aside and stood in a corner of the porch. And only then with great difficulty it began to dawn on me, and I began to understand the reason why I was prevented from being admitted to see the life-giving Cross. The word of salvation gently touched the eyes of my heart and revealed to me that it was my unclean life which barred the entrance to me. I began to weep and lament and beat my breast, and to sigh from the depths of my heart. And so I stood weeping when I saw above me the ikon of the most holy Mother of God.

And there she prayed and offered her repentance. She made the promise:

Be my faithful witness before thy Son that I will never again defile my body by the impurity of fornication, but as soon as I have seen the Tree of the Cross I will renounce the world and its temptations and will go wherever thou wilt lead me.’

And she was as good as her word. Praying again after leaving the Church she heard a voice say, “Cross the Jordan and you will find glorious rest.”

She then managed to buy three loaves of bread. She washed in the Jordan, made her communion the next day at the Monastery of St. John on the banks of the Jordan, and then entered the desert.

And there she struggled:

“Believe me, Abba, seventeen years I passed in this desert fighting wild beasts — mad desires and passions. When I was about to partake of food, I used to begin to regret the meat and fish which of which I had so much in Egypt. I regretted also not having wine which I loved so much. for I drank a lot of wine when I lived in the world, while here I had not even water. I used to burn and succumb with thirst. The mad desire for profligate songs also entered me and confused me greatly, edging me on to sing satanic songs which I had learned once. But when such desires entered me I struck myself on the breast and reminded myself of the vow which I had made, when going into the desert. In my thoughts I returned to the ikon of the Mother of God which had received me and to her I cried in prayer. I implored her to chase away the thoughts to which my miserable soul was succumbing. And after weeping for long and beating my breast I used to see light at last which seemed to shine on me from everywhere. And after the violent storm, lasting calm descended.

And how can I tell you about the thoughts which urged me on to fornication, how can I express them to you, Abba? A fire was kindled in my miserable heart which seemed to burn me up completely and to awake in me a thirst for embraces. As soon as this craving came to me, I flung myself on the earth and watered it with my tears, as if I saw before me my witness, who had appeared to me in my disobedience, and who seemed to threaten punishment for the crime. And I did not rise from the ground (sometimes I lay thus prostrate for a day and a night) until a calm and sweet light descended and enlightened me and chased away the thoughts that possessed me. But always I turned to the eyes of my mind to my Protectress, asking her to extend help to one who was sinking fast in the waves of the desert. And I always had her as my Helper and the Accepter of my repentance. And thus I lived for seventeen years amid constant dangers. And since then even till now the Mother of God helps me in everything and leads me as it were by the hand.”

Her repentance came in a sudden manner. God alone could have known that preventing her entrance into the Church would provoke such a reaction. God alone could have known that within this drunken harlot was hidden the greatest of desert Mothers.

The long struggle in the desert – she described 17 years (out of 47) during which she “struggled with wild beasts, desires and passions.” Obviously, the struggle was engaged through prayer. Her fasting was beyond comprehension. And she describes simply lying on the ground for days at a time, weeping and beating her breast. But then: “a calm and sweet light descended and enlightened me and chased away the thoughts that possessed me.”

And of the 30 years after this great struggle she affirms: “I always had her [the Mother of God] as my Helper and Accepter of my repentance…even till now the Mother of God helps me in everything and leads me as it were by the hand.”

There is a moral struggle; she battles the passions (with such ferocity!). But she describes her victory in terms of pure gift: a calm and sweet light. In all things she credits her victory to the help of the Mother of God. And she maintains the same testimony for the 30 years subsequent to her struggles. The fasting and the prayers continued.

But for all of that victory, she still recognizes her weakness. When the Priest Zosimas questions her about her life she says: “You remind me, Zosimas, of what I dare not speak of. For when I recall all the dangers which I overcame, and all the violent thoughts which confused me, I am again afraid that they will take possession of me.”

Should we think of her as making “moral progress?” Were that the case, she would have no fear of the “dangers” and “violent thoughts.” She would have laid them to rest. What we see is repentance. Her repentance is not of the moral sort, a mere sorrow for deeds that have been done. Her repentance is an effort of self-emptying that is greeted by a Divine-filling. She becomes a vessel of grace in the manner described by St. Paul:

For it is the God who commanded light to shine out of darkness, who has shone in our hearts to give the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ. But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellence of the power may be of God and not of us. (2Co 4:6-7)

It is, of course, possible to describe the changes that occur in the state of repentance as “progress,” but this distorts the work that is taking place. In the words of the Elder Sophrony, “The way down is the way up.” The self-emptying of repentance is not the work of gradual improvement, a work of “getting better and better.” It is a work of becoming “lesser and lesser.” We are not saved by moral progress, transformed by our efforts. It is not self-improvement.

Because of the metaphors and images that dominate our culture, we quickly assume that change (for the good) is an improvement. But included within the progressive metaphor is an assumption of stability and a self-contained quality of goodness (improvement). Thus, if I buy a piece of property and make “improvements,” it is no longer the same. The streets and sewers that have been installed are now part of the property. In human terms, we presume that “progress” gained in the battle with the passions results in an improved self, a self that is less a prisoner to those same passions.

The human life is a dynamic relationship. We are not streets and sewers and electrical gridwork. What is “acquired” by grace in the work of repentance is a different dynamic, one in which our life is centered in the life of God. Repentance is never a one-time event – it is a mode of existence.

The modern laboratory of experience that is the Recovery Movement (AA and the like), provides interesting contemporary examples of this same principle. No recovered alcoholic ever says that he is no longer an alcoholic. He will say that he is “a grateful recovering alcoholic.” For he knows that the life of repentance that is described in the 12 steps, is a life that, once ended, will quickly return him not to a new beginning, to a state of non-alcoholism. He quickly returns to where he stopped and will in a short time drink as though he had never known a day of sobriety. St. Mary of Egypt did well to fear all the “dangers” that she overcame. They have not disappeared.

Our “progress” is a road into the life of God – one that is better described as repentance, the word by which we were first invited to the journey.

About Fr. Stephen Freeman

Fr. Stephen is a retired Archpriest of the Orthodox Church in America. He is also author of Everywhere Present: Christianity in a One-Storey Universe, and Face to Face: Knowing God Beyond Our Shame, as well as the Glory to God podcast series on Ancient Faith Radio.



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121 responses to “St. Mary of Egypt and Moral Progress”

  1. Fr. Stephen Freeman Avatar

    Albert,
    Though clergy may employ St. Mary’s story however they choose, it is worth noting that it is read at a mid-week service of the Canon of St. Andrew of Crete. In my parish, that particular service is done on an early Thursday morning. It has an important place (St. Mary is commemorated on that Sunday), but its placement is not in a position in which children or teens actually encounter it.
    That said, I do not think the story, in our modern context, is at all damaging. Of course, when I was an Anglican, I once place a crucifix on the wall of a Church I served, and had an irate mother complaining that she didn’t want her children “seeing that thing.”

    The same children are daily exposed in our culture to such egregious examples assaulting their senses that it’s hard to really think about all this. What I do know is that the Orthodox Church, having been around now for 2000 years, has successfully raised children and produced saints. It is productive of healthy cultures, given half a chance.

    But there are so many things at work, that a parent must pray, love and be an example to their children. And even then expect to be surprised. St. Mary of Egypt probably had pious parents. Perhaps it was their prayers that saved her.

  2. Karen Avatar
    Karen

    Albert, your comment about your childhood experience reminded me of one of mine, as well. I was raised in a Protestant tradition that still used some liturgical prayers and hymns, observation of seasons like Lent and Advent, but not much hagiography (if any) and few images (apart from the Cross) in the worship space. (We had Bibles and Bible story books with pictures in them.)

    In the summer of my 8th year, my family and I visited Switzerland on vacation. I believe it was there in a shop, I came across a statue of the holy martyr St. Sebastian, who was pierced throughout his body by small arrows. I was horrified by the graphic depiction of this in his statue (which was on the floor at my level and perhaps 3/4 my height at the time). I remember it to this day as a rather disturbing experience (and I’m now in my 50s). I can imagine had I been raised with the kind of teaching and emphases you were, I would have reacted much the same way.

    The Orthodox Icons and hagiography (though quite “fantastic” to our modern way of thinking in some details), have a strikingly (to me) different emphasis than the kind you describe (and I also experienced). This difference also perhaps best illustrated in the Orthodox Icon of Christ on the Cross. In it, Christ is serene and peaceful, gore is absent–what is emphasized is the voluntary aspect of the Lord’s Sacrifice and its spiritual meaning along with other elements of the Gospel accounts such as the presence of His Mother and the Apostle John.

  3. ajt Avatar
    ajt

    Father bless,
    first we begin to exclude children from the fullness of the faith. Keep them from the funeral, don’t let them see a dead body. Don’t share with them the difficult truths like fasting and self denial…they certainly shouldn’t stand during the services. How about we have a seperate service for children where we play fun music and play games…church should be fun otherwise the children wont like it. I know what we should do…get a band to play some music during the service. Lets just make sure everyone is happy and talk about being a good person. Okay, sorry for the rant but I want the fulness, not some mock representation of truth. Lord Jesus Christ have mercy on me the sinner.

  4. ajt Avatar
    ajt

    I’m sorry. I realize my previous post used much sarcasm which doesnt always come through in writing…I do not advocate for keeping children out of the liturgy, but exactly the opposite which is one major reason how I discovered orthodoxy. There is one church…children included.

  5. Dana Ames Avatar
    Dana Ames

    Albert, I have a thought about why girls would “gravitate” more to the desert experience of St Mary.

    There is no one in the desert who requires anything of St Mary that has remotely to do with her past life. When she does finally encounter Fr Zossima (or allows the encounter…), she finds a man who recognizes her sanctity and values her, wants only to learn from her and to bless her, not use her. It’s a far cry from how females are characterized and depicted and pushed into certain molds – especially in our culture, but also in previous times as well.

    I believe that was some sort of healing moment for St Mary, in addition to the healing she found in all her ascetical endeavors.

    Dana

  6. Fr. Stephen Freeman Avatar

    ajt
    Of course. My own way is to trust the Tradition. If things are done as they have been given to us, and we patiently do the work of our souls, all is well. But surely people can raise concerns and think out loud without being shouted down with sarcasm. It is a conversation. Allow it to unfold and be part of it.

  7. Dino Avatar
    Dino

    Dana,
    According to how her life is narrated, I, on the contrary, always thought that St Mary’s life’s main characteristic before her repentance was that she ‘used’ others. The exploitation of others (and of her own body by herself and others) was what would today be called a “choice” that had the characteristics (mostly), [at least on the surface, since everyone is a victim of sin once we probe their depths] of a voluntary predator.
    In Saint Thais the harlot we have exactly what I understood that you described – a harlot who was mainly exploited, used, the characteristic of that exploitation being mainly ‘against her will’.
    I say this because I see, not so much the traditionally labeled …‘weak gender’ in St Mary’s character, but the sort of rare strong character that could become a leader of many souls, one of a decisiveness rarely encountered in anybody, man or woman… That is just how I always thought of her though. Don’t know for sure.

  8. ajt Avatar
    ajt

    Father Stephen,
    Thank you…I think I employ the use of sarcasm as a self-defense when I don’t necessarily have anything intelligent to say about a topic. Unfortunately, this also came out in writing for everyone else to read. The conversation is good, I just get fired-up sometimes to my own detriment and perhaps detriment of others.

  9. Drewster2000 Avatar
    Drewster2000

    Albert,

    I hear what you’re saying and I (like Karen) sympathize with it. I think the bottom line is that we all live with our own brokenness, and you probably aren’t broken in exactly the same way that I am. The West with it’s Puritanism is so mortally afraid of all things remotely to do with sex and death that now we see it everywhere we turn – partly because our culture now celebrates these things and partly because we’ve been stigmatized to react in such a way.

    If the story of St. Mary doesn’t work for you, let it pass. Without sounding overly ecumenical (grin), there seem to be as many ways of healing as there are ways that we’re broken. This one has been an extreme blessing to many people, but it does not follow that it works for everyone – or at least not in the same time or way. This one may not be for you. That’s okay.

  10. Christopher Avatar
    Christopher

    Albert, you say much in your post with many intertwined issues I think. I would like to comment on two:

    “Possibly the strongest of fantasies for boys are sexual in nature. At that age, i would have fixated on the first part of St. Mary’s story. “

    I believe you are right about the general character of sexual fantasies in boys. St. John Cassian talks about this (in the Philokilia, Book 1, “On the Eight Vices”). If you have not already, you might want to take a look at what he has to say, particularly the distinction between “guarding the eyes” and “guarding the heart”. I think it goes some way in “balancing” your perspective/concern.

    “Perhaps I’m wrong. Perhaps children can separate ordinary reality from “saintly” behaviors. I was never very successful at that. I took them seriously and eventually dismissed them almost completely. I’m not talking about prayerful behaviors, even rigorous ones. Nor about healings or other interventions. “

    I may be incorrect here, but I am sensing some “Two Story Universe” in your separating “ordinary reality” (which apparently includes “prayerful behaviors”, “healings”, etc.) from ““saintly” behaviors.” Just an observation – I could be wrong. This might be due to your personal history. I also find “saintly” anything (not just mere behavior) difficult to understand because I am so far from it. Scratch that, it’s not “difficult” to understand – it’s impossible because I can’t possibly “stand under it” in my current state. However, I do believe – I do have faith (I think)…

  11. Christopher Avatar
    Christopher

    “I, on the contrary, always thought that St Mary’s life’s main characteristic before her repentance was that she ‘used’ others. The exploitation of others (and of her own body by herself and others) was what would today be called a “choice” that had the characteristics (mostly), [at least on the surface, since everyone is a victim of sin once we probe their depths] of a voluntary predator.”

    Dino,

    Thanks for putting it like this – this rings true for me also…

  12. Dana Ames Avatar
    Dana Ames

    Dino,

    I understand your point, and agree as far as it goes. Albert was musing about why girls might identify more with St Mary’s desert experience than with her pre-desert exploitations, whether by herself or by others of her.

    Dana

  13. albert Avatar

    Thanks to everyone for the helpful comments. I am learning a lot here, including the fact that, like ajt (your initial comment didn’t bother me; I too “just get fired-up sometimes to my own detriment and perhaps detriment of others”) I often wonder if I couldn’t have said something I said, better. But we are not writing essays or even debating. I’m glad to be here. Thank you Father Stephen, for your great work, God’s work.

  14. mary benton Avatar
    mary benton

    If I might, I would like to offer a brief comment about St. Mary “using” or “being used” by others.

    When I first read of her life not long ago, I was struck by the likelihood of St. Mary having been sexually abused. She left home at the age of 12 and became highly promiscuous? Today, we would see such behavior as strongly suspicious of an abuse history. In her day, it is probable that no one talked of such things.

    I am not saying this to in any way negate her repentance or holiness. It also may not be true. (We have no way of knowing.) Whatever it was that led to her brokenness, she recognized that she could not continue on that path – she did not WANT to continue on it – and so she turned to God and the Blessed Virgin for help.

    I am sharing reflection for the sake of any readers who may carry toxic shame as a result of abuse and behaviors that developed out of it. The behaviors may indeed require repentance but God is compassionate beyond measure. It is interesting to note that St. Mary was immediately allowed to enter the church once she turned to God and the Virgin for help.

    There is no indication in the story that God demanded that she go into the desert and live a severely ascetic life. It seems more that this is what she chose because she felt she needed it – and it delivered her to a true Love that made her pure and holy.

  15. Dino Avatar
    Dino

    Mary,
    I agree that becoming highly promiscuous from the age of 12 must make one strongly suspicious of an abuse history. It makes total sense when viewed as a fact on its own. For some reason though I cannot go with that here…
    My reasons are that it would normally be consistent with the usual manner of recounting a Saint’s life story, and especially the Confession of a Saint who has become ‘all consciousness’ (which is what happens to an illumined and deified one – i.e.: there is no more unconscious/subconscious in such a “neptic” and utterly aware ‘mother of the desert’) to have let us (and especially Saint Zosima to whom she confessed) know of this abuse.
    It is therefore far more likely in this case that she was simply -consistently with the rest of her character- an “all or nothing person” who dived straight into lasciviousness (perhaps with a greater testosterone production or something similar that scientists like to base their rationalisations on today) and then into repentance, more than anyone else, providing us with (in the words of St Justin Popovich) the “greatest of all the desert Saints to walk the earth”…

  16. Nina Avatar
    Nina

    Thank you, father, for this article. It helped me a lot!
    I found your blog from the Greek Orthodox blog ΝΕΚΡΟΣ ΓΙΑ ΤΟΝ ΚΟΣΜΟ.
    God bless you everyone!
    Greetings from the island of Crete, Greece.

  17. Christopher Avatar
    Christopher

    Mary and Dino and all,

    I re-watched Sr. Vassa (“Coffee with Sister Vassa”) episode where she talks about St. Mary (week 6 of Lent last year, I think it is episode 25 if memory serves) this morning. Anyways, Sr. Vassa focuses on the “grief and shame” that prevented St. Mary from entering the church. It reminded me that her (and ours) grief and shame source is irrelevant – that is to say whether we are “victims” or “perpetrators”, we still need to be healed of it and it’s effects appear to be identical at this deep spiritual level, this place in the inner heart that needs healing the most. I suppose I am saying that it does not matter if she is an abuse victim, or an addictive “abuser” or something else entirely – the spiritual “problem” and solution remains the same (excepting perhaps some minor details). I could be wrong, but this seems to confirm my own experience. When I am able to look at my shame and grief honestly (not very often I think) I do recognize that I am sometimes the victim and sometimes the perpetrator. I am not sure if modern therapeutic models make a distinction…

  18. Dino Avatar
    Dino

    Indeed, these psychological distinctions end up irrelevant eventually

  19. Robert Avatar
    Robert

    I am sure you mean irrelevant as far as the purposes and intent of St Mary’s account.

    Got to be careful not to read and use it as if it is a modern psychology text book, through our modern eyes.

  20. Fr. Stephen Freeman Avatar

    It’s very easy to extract things from the story of St. Mary and forget the purpose of the story. It is intended to be a story of how God taught a monk that he wasn’t nearly as holy as he thought he was. When you read what amounts to the prologue of the story – you can see it’s point is actually about St. Zossima. And that’s the take-away for us as well. Some 4 weeks into Lent, we shouldn’t think more highly of ourselves just because we’re fasting. Case in point – a drunken prostitute puts even the most serious monk to shame. And that’s the point of the story.

    Of course, as moderns, we become distracted by the miraculous fasting and repentance and the walking on water and stuff. But it actually isn’t the point. Walking on water is nothing. Repentance even of a minor sort is where we should marvel.

  21. Dino Avatar
    Dino

    I think that the best exposition of “inverted progress” is described in the Ladder of Divine Ascent by St John Climacus “on Humility”

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